Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
Carl R. Rogers
However good we are, however correctly we seek to lead our lives, tragedies do occur. We can blame others, look for justification, imagine how our lives would have been different without them. But none of that matters: they have happened, and that is that. From this point on, it is necessary that we review our own lives, overcome fear, and begin the process of reconstruction.
Carl R. Rogers
We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.
Carl R. Rogers
Everyone may not be good, but there's always something good in everyone. Never judge anyone shortly because every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.
I am a qualified counsellor and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). Like many counsellors, I trained in counselling and psychotherapy because, having had counselling myself, I know that it can work.
Therapy is not magic, and it can be hard, especially at the beginning. You may even feel worse before you feel better, but I believe that it is a highly effective way of dealing with many of the stresses and anxieties which we often hide away to the detriment of our mental health and wellbeing.
I believe that we all hold within us the answer to our own problems and that the therapeutic relationship between client and counsellor is a unique and powerful one, which can lead to the resolution of issues in a lasting and effective way. The personal strength which comes from finding your own solution can remain with you and be drawn upon in the future.
My counselling sessions take place in strict confidence, and I remain impartial and non-judgemental. I aim to develop a relationship of mutual trust, empathy and challenge. The therapy room is a safe space in which you are able to share the load of whatever it is that is preventing you from feeling in control of your life.
My core training is Person Centred, which is the basis for all the work I undertake and is based on empathy, honesty and being authentic. Each client is accepted and valued as himself or herself.
I work face-to-face on a range of issues, either on a long term or a short term basis. I do not determine how many sessions you should have, but work with you to find solutions to your individual situation; for many people three to six sessions may be enough to make significant progress. Others find that longer term therapy is what they need.
I have worked effectively with many different individuals, presenting with many different issues, and I will always allow your specific needs to inform the way we work, introducing techniques or suggestions to help you to understand and find a solution to your situation. Together we can begin to understand why you are struggling, addressing the way past situations, relationships and events may have impacted on your life, and finding practical ways of dealing with stress to improve the way that you feel.
If you feel that there are aspects of your life which feel out of your control or unmanageable, or that you are feeling helpless or hopeless, an initial consultation will help you to decide whether you think that counselling is the right first step for you to take. For an initial chat please give me a call on 07539 393 686 or fill out the form on the contact me page.